We hear all around that ‘we must be positive’ whatever life throws at us and no matter how unhappy our circumstances may temporarily be.
I met people who were duly following that rule to the point of fatally damaging their lives. Let’s now look closer at the concept, to understand why we should avoid being brainwashed into it.First of all, let analyse what our emotions and feeling are here for. Why would you feel actually anything at all? Similarly like our bodies can recognise the objects from the outer world to be cold, hot, sharp etc to ensure moving away from the potentially harmful elements to a safe environment, our soul has a similar ‘toolbox’ on a different level. In other words, when we perceive something as negative (unfair, undeserved, unwanted) happening to us, we naturally get upset. Through that experience we learn what we should avoid and what other things (that bring joy, happiness and fulfillment) we should strive towards. In other words, if you are feeling depressed or upset, it is a signal from your inner self that your life is not what it supposed to be. We should read these indicators and act upon them, to choose the right direction for ourselves.
Thanks to the dreaded ‘Law of Attraction’ concept, which is gradually being transformed into a tool of a mental terror, many people are being made guilty for their natural feelings. They are being told that they should stay positive at any cost, even if it feels wrong. “For if you are positive, good things will come to you thank to the Law of Attraction.” Well, this is sadly wrong and I am going to explain now, why.
Of course, a happy, joyful and confident mind will attract events and people into one’s life that correspond with those vibrations. That happens under one condition though – that this state of mind in natural. It has to be a real feeling of joy, resonating with your whole being, both on the conscious and the subconscious level.
Unfortunately, people who follow the “Always Positive” idea never actually achieve that. Why? Because if they force themselves to be positive even when they feel that things are going wrong, which leads to self-denial and evisceration of the soul. Imagine if you would keep hitting a part of your body over and over, ignoring the pain – that would normally lead to necrosis of that part. Same thing happens to the soul. You can even trick your conscious mind into believing that everything is just wonderful and perfect, but deep in your subconscious pain will keep accumulating until it turns toxic and starts destroying your body from the inside.
What is even worse, once people accept that rule, they automatically start feeling guilty if you fail to follow it, fail to suppress their real feeling and produce endless fake enthusiasm. That guilt, added to the masses of inner pain, is highly destructive. A person who became a victim to this concept, effectively loses direction, because he doesn’t understand right from wrong anymore, therefore he starts making mistakes which lead to even more pain, entering a vicious circle.
It is useful to know that ‘The Law of Attraction’ – which is simply another word for the law of karma – responds to our subconscious rather than conscious signals. That means that if you are fighting to suppress a soul-destroying pain while putting a fake smile on our face, you may fool people around you, but the laws of karma can never be fooled. According to this rule you will attract what ‘you’ve been asking for’ – more pain, more unhelpful people and more situations which ultimately lead you nowhere.
A happy state of mind that attracts positive events should occur spontaneously, as a sign that you are on the right track; that you are in alignment with your soul purpose. It should be found and not forced.
Learn to respect yourself and your feelings – your faithful hard working helpers – to create the life of YOUR dreams, not someone else’s. If something feels wrong, it probably is. Never let other people to make you feel guilty for not following their rules. Your subconscious knows better, what is right for you. Keep your mind open, look for new avenues and possibilities until you find the one that feels right.